Understanding How to Live Life
Romans 8:28 says
that we know that all things work together for good to those who love God, to
those who are the called according to His purpose. Sometimes
there is the tendency to believe that this means that only the desired outcome will be felt.
But as parents should teach their children, everything good for you will not
always feel good to you. Sometimes
God will allow us to be placed in tough conditions in order to bring us
to a place of change that will
enable us to receive everything that
God has for us. Everything that the Bible instructs us to avoid or
give up comes with severe consequences if we are not willing to obey the
commands. If we research and study some of the consequences that the
Israelites had to suffer as a result
of their disobedience, we can get a
better understanding of why we are instructed to abstain from certain
things. It is not for the sake of hampering our fun but for the sake of
enabling us to live the best life
that God has for us.
When we are instructed to get married before we participate in sex, it is for our own good. One of
the consequences for disobeying this command is the broken heart that we get
when we develop a sexual bond with
someone that eventually separates
from us. This is so destructive for some people that they never recover from their broken heart.
They become hardened and
unforgiving. They have a hard time giving love and a hard time receiving
love. This is not what God desires for us because He wants us to
experience the full magnitude of His
love. Another consequence of sex outside of marriage is the
possibility of contracting a sexually
transmitted disease. Some diseases are deadly and will bring about an untimely death. Other diseases
will bring about various outbreaks
or cause a great amount of discomfort.
Although we may be aware of the existence of these diseases prior to
having sex, we tend to forget about or ignore the danger of getting a disease
while engaging in sex. Afterwards, when we decide to think logically, we
tend to think: if only I had not done it or I wish I could have that
decision back.
The most obvious
consequence of premarital sex is the production
of children. In some cases the children were unplanned or there was no
desire to produce children. The most
notable consequences are the realization that you will have to raise a child alone or face financial disparity as a result of making astronomical payments to
the other parent of the child. The non-obvious consequence is that every child who does not receive a
balanced interaction from both parents
will grow up with a deficit.
This creates major issues for
them and those who will have constant contact with them as an adult. When
these consequences become a real part
of our lives there is always the tendency, as a parent, to blame the other parent of the child for the state that we find
ourselves in. When there is a lack of desire to accept responsibility for
our actions, there is the potential to repeat
the destructive pattern of events that put us in the present state that we find
ourselves in. It also prohibits us from
being healed from our hurt and moving beyond the place that we may currently find
ourselves in. In all our getting, get understanding.
